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“No man is an Island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the Continent, a part of the main.” John Donne's Devotions (1624)
We are all connected to everyone else, not just to some. And not just through the knock-on effect nowadays of world economies or de-forestation (note, this was written in 1624...) but in our connectedness through consciousness. It is physics and, as Albert Einstein described it, 'Spooky action at a distance.'
Friendship is about that connectedness, that relationship, being based on positivity: where there are only kind thoughts, good wishes, pure feelings, and they take the form of words and actions that are supportive, appreciative, encouraging, helpful, and give hope. Even the words and thoughts that go unspoken and unheard through the form of meditations and prayers.
Whilst the objective might be to help another, we also grow in our wellbeing in the process. It has been discovered, for instance, that when people unite to take a stand and form a 'community' in the process, their own illnesses or addictions, be it physical, mental, emotional, dissolve in the process.
But true friendship doesn't consider 'what's in it for me?'. It comes from a place of abundance, not scarcity. It understands how life simply 'works'.
The most important and defining relationship we all have is the one we have with ourself. That inner voice in our heads. Nagging and critical? Or patient and understanding, that gives both love and discipline in the right measure and at the right time? It is a defining relationship because in whichever way I think about and treat myself, that same attitude and mindset will also leak out and be how I also am with others. This is why it is so important when they say: "Learn to Make your Mind your Best Friend."
Do you easily share your thoughts and feelings with your friends or family?
It is important to have at least one genuine listening ear in your life. And not just to share our troubles or fears so that they don't build up inside. It is often when we talk about things that we can begin to see situations more clearly for ourselves, which then helps us to find solutions.
Our natural inner wisdom and instincts are amazing, provided our needs don't get in the way. We already hold the answers within us, and a listening ear will help and encourage us to find them for ourselves. A good listening ear will never force us to follow their suggestions.
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